Are you happy with your sex life? Maybe you have been in a relationship for a really long time and the sex has become as scripted as a Broadway play; kiss here, touch there, rub this, poke that, etc. Have things become so mundane that the only variable is how long it takes to get from point A to point E, K, or L (depending on how extensive your sexual repertoire may be)? Or maybe you're just a freak and "conventional" ways of making love bore you. No matter what the source of your sexual ennui might be, there is an answer--SEX TOYS.
Initially, some men might be apprehensive about introducing a "mechanical" edge to their sex life. They might feel that it is a statement about their sexual prowess; they cannot please their woman by themselves and therefore will resist the idea of using a sex toy. We're not talking about competition here; we are talking about variety. You may be the Casanova of the new millennium, but let me assure you gentlemen, there are some things you just can't do. For example, you may have hands that possess the same dexterity, endurance, and skill as a speed metal guitarist when it comes to the ladies, however, I guarantee that you cannot produce 3000 vibrations per minute. That little drum isn't the only thing the Energizer Bunny is hittin'. Conversely, there are certain things that only you can provide--namely the sensation of skin on skin intimacy, or a nice smack on the ass. So don't worry, the technology boom that we are experiencing is not going to make you obsolete.
Now that our egos have been put aside, let's move on. There is a wide array of products out there, but they basically break down into three categories--dildos, vibrators, and anal stimulators. Within each category, there is an array of sizes, shapes, textures, etc. So how do you make sense of all the different items that are available? How do you decide what will be your first? This is a decision not to be taken lightly since you'll always remember your first. Well, a good way to start is in simply asking salesperson what their biggest seller is. Usually, there are a couple of toys that consistently prove to be favorites. These are usually vibrators of some sort.
The reason why vibrators are so popular is that they provide and amazing amount of clitoral stimulation (which is good) and do not have to be inserted into any cavernous regions--which some women might find uncomfortable. Comfort is key! If you are planning to surprise your honey with one of these little Toys and it is her first time, you don't want to pull out a 17'' long, 8'' wide spiked dildo.
Furthermore, when it comes to vibrators, you want to make sure that you buy one with an adjustable speed mechanism. It's much better to increase the speed gradually to help build up the excitement: all women are unique, and while some might like 700,000 vibrations per second, others may be extremely sensitive in that area. If you find yourself stuck with a vibrator that goes too fast for your girl (which you shouldn't after having read this), you can always use a towel as a little buffer.
One item that I have to single out specifically is the remote control vibrating panties. This is the best invention of all time. It is a great way to mix things up because not only will it give your woman pleasure, but it is the most fun too. This toy consists of a pair of panties with a little vibrator built inside. The motor is powered by a tiny battery and controlled by a remote control. The fun part is that the man gets to control the included remote. There is an endless amount of situations that this little toy is great for: clubs, dinner, receptions, class, etc. You are only limited by your imagination.
By now, you may be thinking, "Sound's great, but how much do they cost?" This is the down side; they are expensive. A basic toy can range anywhere from $20 to $40, but toys like the remote control items cost around $80. Sex toys, though, are like tattoos; once you get one, you have to have another. That 40 bucks here and 60 bucks there begins to add up. Furthermore, don't expect your current girlfriend to be OK with using toys that you bought while you were going out with your ex. So, unless you plan to lie to a girlfriend and say you just bought that crusty, grimy, dildo yesterday, you can expect having to replenish your stock from time to time. As you can see, it is very important to determine how sex toys fit into your budget; it's just another part of becoming a responsible adult.
Even though there is nothing better than sleeping with someone whom you really care about and with whom you are sexually compatible, it's nice to change things every once in a while. And short of convincing your girlfriend to share you with another woman, sex toys are a great alternative. But remember, sex toys are not to be used as a crutch. This goes for all you lazy guys out there who think that you can buy a treasure chest full of toys, just to step in for the last ten minutes.
